It’s not going to be Easy.
Walk away. Not just from the fight. From all of it.
There is nothing in being tough, being cool or staunch. Only false promises that lead to broken hearts.
Masks crack. Acts are eventually seen through. False pretences get harder to maintain.
No matter how much we run or avoid, the hurt will eventually catch us. In one form or another.
To those or to that one that you trust. Speak your truth. Be real in the realist sense.
Acknowledge the shame, hurt, anger, fear. Perhaps you can say what you need to say through art, dance, music, paint.
Excuses run dry. Blame is a cage that holds us back. Whatever they did or did not do, whatever he or she said, are just events and experiences that we have to let go of. Holding onto them only punishes us.
It’s not easy. It is not going to be easy. Work is required. Therapy. Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual.
Maybe months, years, decades, to heal, to change, to break free, but it is worth it.
To be your authentic self. To have a good life. To love.
This article was first published on Facebook and Linkedin August 12, 2021.
Copyright© Tim Tipene, 2021.